What is Therapy ?
Therapy is about examining your life, changing unhelpful patterns of thinking, feeling, behaviour and limiting ways of relating to others. Both counselling and psychotherapy are focused on helping you to improve your relationships, removing distress from your life and helping you to live a more creative, resourceful and satisfying life.
The therapy process is often deeply painful, but leads to greater contentment in life. Unfortunately there are no magic wands, and resolution of problems often takes time, courage and determination. You will need to be an active participant in your change process- therapy is something you do, rather than something which is done to you.
The therapeutic relationship is of prime importance, and is a particular kind of relationship. You can expect to be treated with respect and will very likely experience it as supportive, but challenging. Therapy is a two-way process and the more effort you put into it, the better the results are likely to be. “The sessions are not meant to be cosy and you’re not there to just chat.
What happens in a session?
In the session you will be free to talk about your problems and your situation and you will be listened to carefully. Your therapist will seek to obtain as deep an understanding of you and what is troubling you as is possible. They will ask questions that are designed to therapeutically enhance your thinking, your emotions, your behaviour and your way of relating to others. Occasionally you might be puzzled by some of the questioning. In this case, you are at liberty to say so, and your therapist will quite possibly give you an explanation. It is useful to bear in mind that there will be a reason they are pursuing a particular line of inquiry which may not always be immediately obvious. Frequently through sessions your therapist will examine what is happening in the ‘here and now’ of the session- using your reactions and experiences to generate change and insight, they are likely to be exploring your relationship with them and finding opportunities for you to find new ways of relating to others and new ways of being.
You maybe invited to perform certain therapeutic ‘exercises’ or experiments which are chosen to match your problem and provide therapeutic movement and change. Certain courses of action may be suggested and you may also be invite to perform ‘homework’ tasks in between sessions, or to complete diaries and journals to increase the effectiveness of your therapy. Generally speaking, therapists do not tell people what to do with their lives- but rather they assist clients to make their own decisions and have the courage and conviction to act upon their decisions.
Together you will regularly review your work together, assess progress and look at how you are relating to each other and experiencing the therapeutic relationship.
A session normally lasts for one hour, although for couples therapy, sessions quite often are an hour and a half long.
How much does it cost?
We have group therapy available at £15 a session which usually lasts an hour and a half. Individual sessions are on average £45 per hour though each therapist may vary and it’s best to check each therapists fee with them when you first contact them. Most therapists will have their fee listed on their individual page. Couples therapy on average is £60 and again please confirm this with your chosen therapist.
How often do I need to go?
The frequency of sessions is variable. At first it is best to have weekly therapy to make significant changes and to gain a momentum of change. In some circumstances, some people have sessions twice a week, but this is an individual choice and is related to the nature and severity of your problem and upon your therapist. Generally, people reduce the frequency of their sessions to fortnightly or perhaps less often when it feels right to do so. You will be invited to discuss frequency of sessions at regular reviews throughout work.
How long does it take?
The overall length of time you will be in therapy depends upon the nature, severity and extent of your problems and the issues we are addressing, and is also determined by how long you want to take. Some people achieve the results they want in just a few weeks, others may take months or even years. It is important that you go at the pace that suits you and your therapist. You would discuss the expected length of therapy during the trial period, and together you would quickly develop a strong sense as to whether a short term or longer term approach is best.
How do I find out more?
At Warwickshire & Worcestershire Counselling Service most of our therapist offer a free initial assessment session where they can discuss your issues and needs and work out whether therapy would be suitable for you. You will get a sense of how your therapist works during this meeting, and also get a sense of whether they would be the sort of person you would want to work with. You need to feel relatively safe and comfortable, but also suitably challenged. For more information, please visit “Our Therapists” section of the website and select the therapist that most appeals to you.
The cornerstone of our therapeutic practice is deep respect and empathy.You will be expected to be a full and active participant in the process and the work is underpinned by a series of agreements, or contracts to ensure that both therapist and client maintain focus and are in agreement about the nature and direction of the therapy.
Source provided by Mark Widdowson PhD